💫Becoming Instead of Resetting; The Inside-Out Path to Change✨
Becoming Instead of Resetting; The Inside-Out Path to Change
Every January we’re bombarded with messages to reset, reinvent, rise, hustle, improve, upgrade.
For years, I fell right into that rhythm, it suited my personality type; have an idea, do more training, put more things into action, strive to be better, and push myself to achieve more.. right now.
But something in me changed.
And this year, instead of making myself “new,” I’m choosing to simply be.
Why the Inside-Out Shift Matters
When that realisation, my ah-ha moment [see December Blog for details] finally appeared for me, it was transformative: light, freeing, uplifting. But it was also deeply humbling.
Our foundational beliefs, especially the ones about safety, belonging, value, and survival, were formed early in life. Those early beliefs quietly shape our behaviours, emotional reactions, and patterns as adults. They determine how we approach our life; money, relationships, goals, and self-trust.
Change the beliefs, and everything external shifts with it.
I’ve done a huge amount of emotional excavation over the years [particularly the last five], but let’s be honest, seventy years of being “a certain way” doesn’t unwind overnight. Our bodies carry these patterns just as deeply as our minds do. Rewiring takes kindness, repetition, safety, and practice.
So this January, instead of forcing myself into action, I’m oriented into a new question:
How can I “be” in a way that invites change rather than demands it?
My January Practices of “Being”
I’m sharing these because they’re helping me reframe old patterns, strengthen new neural pathways, and uncovering me. I hope you find a few gems for your own journey.
1. Be kind
Give yourself permission to make mistakes. Growth isn’t linear. We are beautifully flawed humans interacting with other beautifully flawed humans, having a wonderfully “flawsome” time together.
Process:
When you catch a self-criticism, pause. Put your hand on your chest. Say, “Of course I feel this, I’m human.”
This tiny moment interrupts the old survival loop.
2. Be aware
Self-awareness isn’t about backlash or self-punishment. It’s simply noticing what’s happening.
Process:
The second I notice myself slipping into an old behaviour, I name it:
“Oh… there’s that pattern again, that feeling.”
No judgment. Naming it is healing. Acknowledging it is healing.
Then I use box breathing to bring my nervous system back into presence.
3. Be long (belong)
Your people shift as you shift. My tribe today looks nothing like my tribe ten years ago. That is a sign of growth.
Process:
Ask yourself:
“Who feels safe, nourishing, and aligned with where I’m going, not where I’ve been?”
That awareness alone creates new circles.
4. Be prepared
This is self-responsibility. No blaming circumstances, the past, or other people. Choose ownership instead. It’s liberating.
Process:
At the end of the day, reflect:
“What did I bring into my interactions, choices, or emotions today?”
Ownership creates movement. Blame keeps everything stuck.
5. Be-lieve
A mantra that continually grounds me:
“I am exactly where I am meant to be.”
Process:
Repeat it in moments of uncertainty. Let it negate the inner urgency to rush, fix, or prove.
6. Be quiet
This one is huge for me. For years I filled every gap with something to do - action was my go-to coping pattern.
Process:
Choose one moment daily to do nothing.
Walk without headphones.
Sit with a cup of tea.
Stare at the sky.
This stillness rewires the nervous system more than any strategy ever could.
What’s emerging from this Practice
As these “being” practices settle into my daily life, I’m noticing:
☑️more calmness
✅a growing sense of internal safety
☑️an easeful blend of my practical mind and my spiritual intuition
✅old patterns dissolving
☑️old truths healing
✅more softness, more presence, more self-trust
☑️I’m no longer chasing change - I’m allowing it.
We are all WIPs — Works in Process — and embracing this truth is powerful.
A Conversation that supported my thinking
Recently I asked a young woman running a creative business,
“Isn’t it scary relying on creativity to show up?”
She smiled and said, “Not at all. Everything in the business has a process. The team follow the process, and creativity shows up because we do.”
That resonated deeply.
We don’t have to wait for inspiration, confidence, motivation, or healing.
We show up for the process, the simple inner practices, and the transformation meets us there.
A Gentle January Invitation
Instead of resetting, reinventing, or rushing…
Choose one way of being, that supports the woman you are without the old stories.
One tiny inside-out shift.
One moment of presence.
One breath.
Change begins there quietly, powerfully, and permanently.
Women thrive financially when inner shifts meet practical action. If this year is about changing your relationship with money from the inside out, the Money Makeover Course will guide you through both the emotional and practical layers.
Much Love
Jan 🌻
Heal your money story, change your life.
Financial Therapist | Money Relationship Coach
