✨Why Your 7-Year-Old Self May Still Be Running Your Life ✨

Hi Lovely 🐚

Let me share a powerful example of how our subconscious programming can sabotage us, even when we consciously want something different; a 7-year-old eagerly raises her hand to answer a question in class. Excited because she knew the answer. She mispronounces a word, and the classroom explodes with laughter. In that moment, her young mind makes a crucial decision for protection: "Speaking up in front of people is dangerous. It leads to humiliation and shame."

Fast forward decades later. The same person, now successful in her career, is genuinely excited about giving an important presentation. She is thoroughly prepared, believes in her message, and can't wait to share her knowledge.  But as she waits to go up on stage something unexpected happens - a full-on panic attack.

Her conscious mind is confused. Why am I panicking? I want to be here. I am prepared. This makes no sense.

But their subconscious mind is doing exactly what it was programmed to do at age 7:  Danger! People are watching! They'll laugh! Protect yourself!

Our mind will do what it must do to protect us and keep us safe, avoid rejection. It is part of our very old programming - rejection by the ‘Tribe’ meant death.

This is the profound disconnect between our conscious desires and our subconscious programming. The 7-year-old's protective mechanism, which may have helped avoid further ‘classroom’ embarrassment, became an obstacle to future potential.

The Thing about Obstacles

Most people spend their lives trying to change their circumstances from the outside; switching jobs, ending relationships, moving cities, or altering their environment, hoping these external shifts will finally bring the change they want. Often, the people around them can see the self-sabotaging patterns clearly, while they remain completely blind to them. Yet the same patterns, triggers, and emotional responses seem to follow them wherever they go. Why? Because the real obstacles aren't external; they're internal. You take yourself wherever you go!

The obstacles we face aren't walls blocking our path, they're mirrors reflecting our internal programming. When we recognise that our external world is a projection of our internal world, we can then reclaim our power. We stop trying to change the reflection and start transforming what's being reflected.

Your Body Knows the Truth Your Mind Won't Admit 🙌

Our bodies are incredibly sophisticated. Long before our conscious minds recognise an obstacle or trigger, our nervous system responds with physical sensations - a knot in the stomach, tension in the shoulders, shallow breathing or that familiar feeling of anxiety creeping up.

These bodily responses aren't random; they're patterns formed by our subconscious programming. They are our signposts showing us what needs attention. These patterns created from past experiences where our mind created protective mechanisms that, while helpful then, now serve as obstacles to our life. Until we ‘get’ this notion nothing will change. Functioning from the perception of a 7 year old, not the beautiful, capable, confident adult.

Working Hard, Getting Nowhere: The Money Story

Consider someone desperately wanting to change their "money story." They might: • Read every financial book • Attend wealth seminars • Create detailed budgets • Even change careers

Yet despite all these external efforts, they find themselves stuck in the same financial patterns. Why? Because underneath lies an unchanged belief system, it could be "I don't deserve wealth," "Money is scarce," or "Rich people are greedy."

Just like the presentation panic attack, the issue isn't lack of knowledge, preparation, or conscious desire—it's the subconscious programming running the show.

 It's not enough to tell yourself "I deserve money" while your deeper programming whispers "You're not worthy." Similarly, it's not enough to prepare a great presentation while your inner child screams "They'll laugh at you!"

The Neuroscience Behind Internal Change

Modern neuroscience supports what RTT [Rapid Transformational Therapy] and NLP [Neurolinguistic Programming] have long understood: our brains are neuroplastic, capable of forming new neural pathways throughout our lives. When we change our internal programming through techniques like hypnosis, visualisation, and positive suggestion, we literally rewire our brains for new behaviours and outcomes.

The neural pathway created at age 7, linking public speaking with danger and humiliation, can be rewired to connect speaking with confidence, contribution, and connection.

The Truth Is

Remember: You can't change the outcomes from the outside; you can only change from the inside. But when you do change from within, your outer world transforms in ways that seem almost magical.  And the obstacles that once seemed overwhelming reveal themselves as invitations to discover just how powerful you really are.

That 7-year-old's moment of protection became the adult's wake-up call; hang on, what's actually going on here? The real transformation happens when we stop trying to fix the symptoms and start reprogramming what is running the show.